MISTAKES AND THE REAL YOU

“The first thing that happens after you make a mistake is that you become upset. This is the first indication of a mistake. At this point of being upset, you find who you really are!!”

At this point of being upset, we become of these characters:

• ·         The Liar:  “No, no, no. It wasn’t me.” OR “I didn’t do them.” OR “Prove it”.
• ·         The Blamer: “It’s your fault, not mine.” OR “If my wife didn’t spend so much money, I’d be better off financially” OR “Associates don’t listen to me anymore” OR “You weren’t clear in your instructions”.
• ·         The Justifier: “Well, I don’t have a good education so that is why I don’t get ahead.” OR “I would have made it if I had more time.” OR “I couldn’t do it this time, but next time surely I’ll hit the target.” OR “Well, everyone else was doing it.”
• ·         The Quitter: “I told you this business will never work.” OR “This is too hard and it’s not worth it. I’m going to do something else easier.” OR “Why I’m doing this? I don’t need this hassle.”
• ·         The Denier: This person tries to bury his own mistakes. One of the Presidents of the US was caught in an extra marital affair with his secretary. The worse part was that he tried to deny this in front of everybody. These people often say these lines “No, there is nothing wrong. Things are fine.” OR “Mistake?? What mistake?” OR “Don’t worry. Things will work out.”

When people are upset due to a mistake or accident, one or more of these characteristics takes over them. If you want to learn and gain wisdom from the priceless mistake, you have to let “The Responsible You” eventually take control of the thinking and let of the emotions and say ,” What do I learn from this mistake?”

If a person after committing a mistake says that what he learned from this mistake is that he should never repeat it again, he probably hasn’t learned anything at all. Rather than saying that “I’ll never do it again”, one should say “I’m glad it happened because I learned this or that from this experience”.

So commit mistakes, take a lesson from it and rather than focusing on not committing it again focus on the valuable lesson you get out of this opportunity.

LIFE IS MEANT TO BE ABUNDANT – ROHIT MATHUR