ATTRIBUTES OF AMAZING MENTORS

1.       Their philosophy—what do they believe in?? Is it about their reputation, their ego, their way of doing things, their pay cheques or is it about your success. Do they believe in you and do they care for your success? Sometimes when somebody outside your family believes in your success and really wants you to do well, that really feels well and gives a lot of confidence. They really believe in you more than you believe in yourself. Many times this belief which they have works more than their coaching and training, because they saw something in you which you weren’t able to see in yourselves.

2.       Competence -- Knowing what they are doing. That person cannot be your mentor who doesn’t know what you are doing whether they care for you or they love you. Because one who has treaded the path knows how to navigate to your success and thus that develops trust in you. When they do not know what you are doing they can often give you a wrong suggestion which can spoil your efforts. So competence is important for becoming a good mentor.

3.       Image and brand they have- their attitude, their energy. Are they are someone to be emulated? The real mentors held themselves well. If they show up in flip flops and pyjamas in the meetings, they won’t get many followers. They need to know how to carry themselves and make their aura bigger. They need to become a personality people want to emulate.

4.       Vision—painting the picture of your beautiful future with words. Great mentors have the ability to create a vision. These people have the ability of making you see a vision so clearly that you are ready to pay the price of spending your time and money and efforts with them so that the picture they showed you becomes reality. They make you believe in your dreams and they even help you in increasing the size of your dreams and feel comfortable with them being converted into real life targets. They create the trust that they know where they want to take you. The objectives are really clear.

5.       Game plan—to get that vision converted to a reality. Vision is the objective, the place where you want to reach while the game plan is the step by step process of achieving that “vision to reality”, because you have travelled the way and you are on the road ahead you can give them proper directions. So a mentor not only has the capability to show you a dream but he also has the ability to give you a step by step plan to achieve that success as well.

6.       Communication skills—telling stories — to make that vision stronger—let you know that you are better than what you are being today.  “let me tell what I did when this happened to me” ” let me tell you what one person did when he faced similar circumstances. Sometimes they’ll give you a slap with a story and get you on the correct path.

7.       Providing what people need and not just what they want. The mentor should not just do the things which their followers want but they should be able to give them what they need. Rather than always motivating and pampering , a mentor should be able to educate you and get you back on track.

Don’t put a lot of pressure on one mentor, he can have things which are not good for you. So let it be like that. Respect him for what he has told you correctly and find other people to learn those things which you cannot learn from him. One should always know what advice to take from what person.

Life is meant to be abundant—rohit mathur